Authenticity is not about blurting out loud what you think, it is not about dismissing what other people think/feel, nor about delivering your authenticity carelessly independent of the context. “Being authentic is much more than ‘being yourself,’” says Gareth Jones, coauthor of Why Should Anyone Work Here?: What It Takes to Create an Authentic Organization. “If you want to be a leader, you have to be yourself–skillfully.”
HOW TO BE AUTHENTIC? (note to self and to you)
- Understand your true self. Until you do, the real you will never really be born.
- Be yourself and embrace vulnerability.
- Monitor yourself: your intentions, your emotions, your misconceptions, your beliefs, your biases.
- Monitor your context: your audience, your environment.
- Master the art of giving and receiving advice so you can engage in deeper connections and collaborate with authenticity. Authentic feedback is the best gift you receive.
- Experiment humility while taking risks to go beyond your capabilities. Don’t be afraid to fail, to make mistakes. Get out of your comfort zone!
- Set boundaries. Be true to your values and aspirations. Authenticity is clearly linked with the principles of integrity.
Fortunately, identities aren’t set in stone. From cradle to grave, we are works in progress and we can grow. Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about un-becoming everything that isn’t really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.
Watch also this video from HBR to have more insights.
Writer : Ezgi Tasdemir